One of the reasons that the divorce rate is so high is because people do not truly understand what it takes to have a successful marriage. The reality is that Marriage Is Not For The Weak. When I say "weak" I am not talking about physical strength. The strength needed for marriage is emotional and spiritual strength along with better skills.

Trying to do marriage "casually" or with the skills you showed up to adulthood with might get you knocked out like Nate Robinson. For those that don't know, Nate Robinson is a former basketball player who decided to get into a boxing ring with a professional boxer. When Nate got knocked out it was all over social media. Snoop said, "You play basketball, you can't "play" boxing." Nate was unprepared.

In the same way, most people are unprepared for what they sign up for when they say, "I do." Being 'in love' is not enough to make marriage work. What you learned in childhood about how relationships work was probably wrong. Keith Sweat was right when he said, "There's a right and a wrong way to love somebody." If you learn it wrong you will live it wrong.

If you are married, make sure you get the skills and tools you need in order to have a successful marriage. Remember that marriage always works...it is either working FOR you or it is working ON you, but it is working. And if you are not married yet, please understand that having a "made up mind" to be successful will not overcome your lack of understanding of how marriage works.

The reason marriage is hard is because no one ever taught you that it would take this much. Marriage is not for the weak. Do the work to become stronger.